The misinformation, myths, and mysteries of Eating Disorders answered. Are eating disorders a choice? Do parents cause eating disorders?

Written by Katie Watson, LMSW, LCSW

As a therapist and practice owner, one of the most common barriers I see to early, effective eating disorder treatment is misinformation. Many individuals and families delay seeking help because they believe eating disorders are a choice, a phase, a parenting failure, or “not serious enough yet.”

These myths are not harmless. They increase shame, delay diagnosis, and make recovery harder.

Below, I want to address the most common questions we hear at Carmel Therapy Network using what we know from decades of clinical experience and research.

Are Eating Disorders a Choice?

No. Eating disorders are not choices. They are complex psychiatric and medical illnesses influenced by a combination of biological, psychological, and social factors. Genetics play a significant role in vulnerability, and research consistently shows that eating disorders are heritable conditions with strong biological underpinnings (Schaumberg et al., 2017).

That said, biology does not act in isolation. Environmental stressors such as weight stigma, peer pressure, cultural body ideals, illness, bullying, trauma, or major life transitions can activate an underlying vulnerability. Eating disorders also commonly occur alongside anxiety disorders, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and social phobia (Hambleton et al., 2022).

No one chooses to develop an eating disorder. These illnesses emerge at the intersection of predisposition and lived experience.

How can Parents or Families help with Eating Disorders?

International clinical and advocacy organizations, such as the Academy for Eating Disorders, the American Psychiatric Association, and NEDA, emphasize that parents are not the cause of eating disorders. Historically, caregivers particularly mothers were blamed for their child’s illness. Modern research has firmly rejected this idea. Leading organizations including the Academy for Eating Disorders and the American Psychiatric Association emphasize that eating disorders are biologically rooted conditions, not the result of parenting style (Bulik & Academy for Eating Disorders, 2014).

What is true is that family involvement can be incredibly powerful in recovery. Research shows that when caregivers are included in treatment especially for children and adolescents outcomes often improve and recovery can begin more quickly (Schaumberg et al., 2017; Matheson et al., 2023).

Families don’t cause eating disorders, but they can absolutely be part of healing.

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Eating Disorder Myths, Explained

By Katie Watson, LCSW – Owner, Carmel Therapy Network

As a therapist and practice owner, one of the most common barriers I see to early, effective eating disorder treatment is misinformation. Many individuals and families delay seeking help because they believe eating disorders are a choice, a phase, a parenting failure, or “not serious enough yet.”

These myths are not harmless. They increase shame, delay diagnosis, and make recovery harder.

Below, I want to address the most common questions we hear at Carmel Therapy Network using what we know from decades of clinical experience and research.

Are Eating Disorders a Choice?

No. Eating disorders are not choices.

They are complex psychiatric and medical illnesses influenced by a combination of biological, psychological, and social factors. Genetics play a significant role in vulnerability, and research consistently shows that eating disorders are heritable conditions with strong biological underpinnings (Schaumberg et al., 2017).

That said, biology does not act in isolation. Environmental stressors—such as weight stigma, cultural body ideals, illness, bullying, trauma, or major life transitions—can activate an underlying vulnerability. Eating disorders also commonly occur alongside anxiety disorders, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and social phobia (Hambleton et al., 2022).

No one chooses to develop an eating disorder. These illnesses emerge at the intersection of predisposition and lived experience.

Do Parents Cause Eating Disorders?

This is one of the most painful myths for families, and it’s important to be clear:

Parents do not cause eating disorders.

Historically, caregivers—particularly mothers—were blamed for their child’s illness. Modern research has firmly rejected this idea. Leading organizations including the Academy for Eating Disorders and the American Psychiatric Association emphasize that eating disorders are biologically rooted conditions, not the result of parenting style (Bulik & Academy for Eating Disorders, 2014).

What is true is that family involvement can be incredibly powerful in recovery. Research shows that when caregivers are included in treatment—especially for children and adolescents—outcomes often improve and recovery can begin more quickly (Schaumberg et al., 2017; Matheson et al., 2023).

Families don’t cause eating disorders, but they can absolutely be part of healing.

Doesn’t Everyone Have an Eating Disorder These Days?

Disordered eating behaviors are common in our culture, but clinical eating disorders are still distinct and diagnosable illnesses.

Approximately 9% of people in the United States—about 30 million individuals—will experience an eating disorder in their lifetime (Deloitte Access Economics, 2020). Lifetime prevalence varies by diagnosis, with binge eating disorder being the most common, followed by other specified feeding or eating disorders (OSFED).

Despite their prevalence, eating disorders are frequently underdiagnosed and undertreated. Stigma—both around mental health and around eating disorders specifically—often prevents people from seeking care early, when treatment is most effective (Brelet et al., 2021).

Are Eating Disorders Really That Serious?

Yes. Eating disorders are among the most serious psychiatric illnesses.

They have the second highest mortality rate of any mental health condition, surpassed only by opioid use disorders (Arcelus et al., 2011). Medical complications can include cardiac issues, electrolyte imbalance, kidney failure, bone loss, and gastrointestinal damage.

In addition, suicide risk is significantly elevated. Research indicates that roughly:

• 31% of individuals with anorexia nervosa

• 23% of individuals with bulimia nervosa

• 23% of individuals with binge eating disorder

have attempted suicide at some point in their lives (Udo et al., 2019).

Beyond physical risk, eating disorders cause profound emotional suffering and can disrupt relationships, education, work, and overall quality of life (Hambleton et al., 2022).

If Biology Plays a Role, Is Recovery Still Possible?

Absolutely. Biology is not destiny.

While genetic and neurobiological factors increase vulnerability, recovery is possible—and common—with appropriate care. Early intervention is one of the strongest predictors of positive outcomes and can reduce long-term medical and psychological consequences (Schaumberg et al., 2017; Miskovic-Wheatley et al., 2023).

Recovery often requires a team-based approach, including therapy, nutrition support, medical monitoring, and the involvement of supportive family or community members. Many individuals also learn skills that help them manage stress and reduce the likelihood of relapse over time.

Hope is not naïve in eating disorder recovery, it’s evidence-based.

Aren’t Eating Disorders a “Female Issue”?

No. Eating disorders affect people of all genders, cultures, ages, and backgrounds.

Although women have historically been diagnosed more often, research shows that eating disorders are nearly as prevalent among men and occur at even higher rates among transgender and nonbinary individuals (Nagata et al., 2020; Mitchison et al., 2019).

Studies have found that transgender college students are more than four times as likely as their cisgender peers to report an eating disorder diagnosis (Diemer et al., 2015). Unfortunately, gender stereotypes and lack of provider training often delay diagnosis in LGBTQIA+ individuals, leading to more severe symptoms by the time treatment begins (Kcomt et al., 2020; Mensinger et al., 2020). Eating disorders do not discriminate—and care must be inclusive, affirming, and culturally competent.

Can Someone Be Too Young or Too Old to Develop an Eating Disorder?

Eating disorders can develop or re-emerge at any age. Clinicians are seeing increased diagnoses in children, with some individuals reporting eating-related distress beginning much earlier than previously recognized (López-Gil et al., 2023). While adolescence and young adulthood remain common periods of onset, adults in midlife and beyond may experience relapse or new onset related to stress, medical changes, or life transitions (Galmiche et al., 2019).

There is no age cutoff for care.

Doesn’t Recovery Take a Very Long Time?

Recovery timelines vary widely. Some people improve relatively quickly, while others require longer-term support.

Factors that influence recovery include:

• Severity and duration of the illness

• Age and physical health

• Presence of co-occurring mental health conditions

• Access to specialized, evidence-based treatment

• Quality and consistency of support

Recovery is often non-linear, and even after significant improvement, many individuals benefit from ongoing check-ins, nutrition support, therapy, or medication to maintain progress (Strober et al., 1997; Miskovic-Wheatley et al., 2023).

Progress alongside a professional not perfection or rigidity is the goal.

Final Thoughts

At Carmel Therapy Network, we believe that early, compassionate, and informed care saves lives. If you or someone you love is struggling with food, body image, or eating behaviors, you do not need to wait until things feel “bad enough” to seek help.

You deserve support now. Reach out to work with one of our trauma-informed dietitians today: Connect for a 15 minute Consultation

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